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Or if it is hurting you to have feelings for him and yet conform to his expectations, better give it up and cut all ties with him.
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-Always check whether you mind and body are feeling safe and comfortable when you are in any relationship and give this the utmost priority.
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+Always check whether you mind and body are feeling safe and comfortable when you are in any relationship and give this the utmost priority.
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+我爱上了一个不想要关系但喜欢我并想继续和我睡觉的人,我该怎么办?
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+这让我想起了一个流行的类比。
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+一个人曾经每天用纯牛奶喂养小狗。充满爱。
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+小狗长大后是一只忠诚的狗。它一直困扰着他和他的房子,直到他去世。
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+另一个人看到了这一点,每天用纯牛奶喂一条小蛇。带着很多爱和一丝感情。
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+有一天,蛇长大了,咬了他。
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+他想知道为什么蛇从来没有忠诚,而他周围的人想知道为什么他从来没有常识不指望蛇的忠诚。
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+底线的顶线是
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+你的爱可能没有那么强大,无法改变人的本性。
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+首先接受这一点。
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+他清楚地提到了自己的界限,确立了自己的本性。尊重这一点,并尝试相应地调整你对他关系的期望。
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+即使你想尝试改变他的观点,也要考虑这是输赢的风险。准备好你的心,它会很痛,但你想尝试一下。
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+或者,如果对他有感情却符合他的期望会伤害你,最好放弃它并切断与他的所有联系。
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+始终检查您的身心在任何关系中时是否感到安全和舒适,并优先考虑这一点。
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